Saturday, 17 May 2014
So it started with a simple inbox message from a loving soul by the name of Gaby, it read:
"Hi Oyama,...I write to you to ask for a chance to converse with you with regards to some work I have to do for my course. I think you are very relevant. My Media course has had us create blogs that discuss issues about of course, the media. Mine in particular addresses the constructions of the Self and how much they have to do with the Media's influence. In my blog I have explored the issues of race, gender, self-knowledge etc.. What feels right for me to do next is explore the physical performances of who we are in the mediated world. Particularly, I seek to glimpse into the world of what Jill Scott would call "the thickness": the worlds of women who are not skinny and what the world perceives to be big and therefore, not "it". How they feel about their bodies, and how they go about not giving a damn about it and moving forward despite the images of skinny girls that pervade the magazines and haunt out self-esteems... Every time I've seen you on campus I have been struck and straight up confronted with your strong sense of self. It envelopes you. I would like to know how you do it. How do you literally wear your Self in a world, South Africa, UCT that sees you as "too much"? You rock your shorts, and the tight tops. The media says "no!" because apparently your body does not look good in what is meant for size 26 girls. I also just went through your timeline. The word that has come to me to describe you is "jampacked". I saw the Chimamanda quotes, your quotes on RADICAL self love and that you have a blog that i'd love to have a look through before we meet... I'm honestly quite thrilled and hoping you'll get this soon and reply to me as your earliest convenience. Really sorry about the late notice. School is too hectic for me. But i'm so passionate about this that I know its all going to work out. Thanks in advance, "Gaby"
Before I knew it, she dag deep into my soul; and allowed me to reveal a lot of the things that I was not aware of myself and we ended up with a beautiful piece that she wrote and of course I have to share it, as I believe that what I am doing will hopefully touch a lot of people who have issues with their appearance, this then to me means allowing you to reach into my soul as well as allowing you to see the vulnerable Oyama ...so here it goes: